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One of the biggest changes that I’ve noticed in society since my childhood years relates to the “instant coffee” mentality that permeates modern living.
Back when I was a kid, way before the high tech revolution, things seemed much simpler. Getting ahead in life meant setting some goals, working hard and having faith that in time your efforts would be rewarded. Of course it required liberal doses of self-discipline but you knew if you weren’t disciplined you got the “left-overs” and not the main meal
At the tender age of 15, I had a dream of playing Rugby League for my country and with a lot of hard work, an unwaivering commitment to being the best and a belief that rewards would come my way I was able to maintained focus and discipline…and yes the results eventually came.
There are many important and obvious inputs we are all aware of to achieving success in one’s life. These include attitude, work ethic, focus, committment, and the list goes on. But there is a little discussed factor which is absolutely fundamental to accessing the resources required for success…what is it? Trust...... it is vital we are being trusted!
Each day during our interactions with people whether at work, in our relationships or simply an encounter with a neighbour down the street, we make non-conscious decisions that affect the quality of that particular relationship and how we behave.
What is the barometer for making these decisions and interacting a certain way? The feeling of trust!
Are people born to succeed, or are “success” qualities developed after birth?
The age-old “nature” or “nurture” argument has plenty of supporters on both sides of the fence …but from personal experience; I must admit that I sit firmly in the nurture camp.
Like all children, I was born into this world as a bundle of potential, but up until a lightning bolt stung me into action at the age of 14, I was just plodding through life without any clear direction or goals. That lightning bolt came in the form of the sudden death of my beloved dad from a heart attack and it was an utterly gut-wrenching experience.
One of the great myths of our time is that the world’s genuine achievers are born to be great. This line of thinking is reflected in phrases like “she’s a natural” and “he was always destined for greatness” but perhaps champions like Ghandi, Mother Theresa, Mandela and Muhammad Ali would take exception to the view that they were born into a life that was spiritually scripted for greatness
Obviously these champions possessed some form of natural talent and aptitude for their chosen direction in life but talent alone doesn’t explain the lofty heights to which these amazing individuals attained
In many ways life is like a game of poker where we’re dealt a deck of DNA cards at birth and our achievements are dictated not so much by the cards themselves but by the way we play those cards.
How important is a productive mindset to being successful?
Is it not important? Is it somewhat important? Or is it mission critical?
Most people would agree with me that it’s mission critical! If you’re not in a clear thinking, optimistic frame of mind then your behaviour and outcomes will be compromised.
Who am I? What is my purpose? What am I here for?
These are common questions we need to engage at some stage in our life on the march towards adulthood. We look to gain increased clarity of who we are, what we stand for and what we want out of life. These questions help us to stay true to ourselves and find a deeper understanding of who we are.
How many times have you been in a situation where you have reacted or behaved in an unusual way only to walk away thinking “Why did I react like that?” or “Why did I say that?” It’s as though from time to time we slip into an altered state of being where something happens that triggers a dysfunctional set of behaviours leading us to feel as though we just don’t understand ourselves. Not understanding the way we think, act, speak or behave can bring upon feelings of self-doubt, frustration and low self-esteem, amongst a host of unproductive behaviours and emotions.
Now that we have established the vast difference between seeking happiness vs seeking fulfillment in our lives, it is time to identify what it is that will bring each of us a sense of fulfillment.
As an observer of human behaviour I’m amazed at how the journey of life is experienced in so many different ways by so many different people, often regardless of the circumstances that people find themselves in.
In our day to day lives we encounter many different individuals, each with varying approaches to life. At one extreme, there are those who enjoy a life consistently rich in colour, abundance and fulfilment, yet on the other end of the spectrum there are those who seem to endure a life littered with setbacks, scarcity and misery.
There is a strong emphasis and chase for people to seek happiness in their lives, however contrary to this belief I pose the following - what is happiness without fulfillment? We all know what it’s like to feel happy but have you ever been truly fulfilled?
Seeking happiness isn't wrong, it's just limiting. It is only one part of our life's experience and journey. Seeking fulfillment means you will not only experience happiness but also the rich experience of all other emotions both good and not so good but non the less, a valuable part of life. A moment of happiness can be fleeting, yet experiencing a vast range of emotions adds to our character and helps shapes our values which in return leads to fulfillment. I believe living a life of fulfillment means living a life true to our values.
I do not disagree that we should all seek to feel happy, we certainly should but we must also embrace the idea that happiness is defined by moments of joy and can be quite fleeting whereas fulfillment is a deeper sense of satisfaction with the direction of your life and the achievement of worthwhile goals. Happiness is a state of mind whereas fulfillment is a state of being.
Which of the following do you agree with?Our intelligence and success levels are predetermined at birthSome people are gifted and lucky, others are notYou can become successful, happy and create the life you want, whatever your starting pointYou can change the way you think, learn new skills and behaviour over and over again
If you agreed with the first two statements, you’re coming from a fixed mindset. If you agreed with the second two, you’ve got a growth mindset and if you have a growth mindset then right here, right now reading this blog is exactly where you need to be!
The secret to success today lies in ensuring you are able to adapt. Adapt to change, let go of old ‘rules’ and welcome new ones. The world we live in today is one of massive change, unprecedented in the history of civilisation and although to many of us change is intimidating and means entering the ‘unknown’, embracing change as an opportunity is key.
I am going to start this post with a very bold statement...
"The quality of our life is governed by the quality of the thoughts we entertain"
In fact, our dominant thoughts are so powerful that they shape our attitude, our character and ultimately they shape our destiny.
I want you to ask yourself this… when was the last time you failed at something? Or further more, when was the last time you didn’t try or attempt something you really wanted because you were too afraid to fail?
My guess is that those questions hit home somehow in most of you, or if not almost all of you. Why is this? It is hard to believe when the reality is that embedded deep in the psyche of every person on the planet is the desire to be absolutely amazing great at some point in our lifetime.
It has become clear in todays world that somewhere between having unconditional determination as a baby to take our first step and through to the moment we leave school when we suddenly conditioned to a life that lacks excitement and settle instead for a comfortable life set on autopilot. Why is this? Because as adults we think we should know and understand how life works?